Life is larger than a person

I want to forget my girlfriend , whats the way?

I am in love with a girl , she is also in love with me, but in some matters she tells lies and no clarity in her thoughts and her relation .

I want to 4 get her what to do please help me
Some suggestion for you....

Always remember " PAST IS PAST..." So its better that you should stop thinking about her and look ahead in life. You never know there must be something real good waiting for you. Start concentrating on your career and start dreaming to do something good in life. Once you have dreams, you will have a motto to live and then start chasing your dreams.

You can forget her only if you find a much better girl than her. So immediately find that right girl and build relationship with her. This is work out very well.

I know its difficult but nothing is impossible,think positively whatever happens for happens for the good, may be some body better is waiting u, when u come out of the bitterness only then u can cherish the sweetness of life.

There are a lot of important issues in life besides a failed relationship. If it hasnt worked out there is no point in thinking how it can work again especially since you are sure it will never be possible for youll to get back again . Time is a great healer of all wounds and you will definitely find something more intersting to occupy your mind with the passage of time.

If you are 100% sure that you both cannot get together, then what makes you brood over her. Isnt it proof enough that u like her.

You want to forget her.Thats a decision made firmly. Moreover , you say it is certain that you two cannot get back together. So , there is no point in brooding over it. have the will power and develop it. 

Why do you want live in memmories...be practical...nobody cars for other than you or your parents do..Think as you didn't loose anything...Someone special is wating for you somewhere to become your betterhalf....think about your career.....Without money you are nothing....nothing...from my experience i learned this...Try to have a good career...and above all don't forget the mirracle man is watching everything....

Once you look ahead, mate, you will see life's full of possibilities. The saying is - When a window closes, a door opens somewhere else. Will be true for you too.

My suggestion, dont try to forget. Your life must have been intricately involved, so you cant erase it out. Live with it, but accept that life's larger than a person, and it will eventually be better for you.

Fix a Relationship Already Damaged by Cheating ?

Cheating happens, and for many people it's usually a deal-breaker. Yet at the same time, you'd be surprised at the number of couples who stay married or go on dating even after an affair.

Can you ever trust your partner again after cheating?

So how do they do it? How do you get past the fact that your lover cheated on you, or if you were the one who was unfaithful, get them to forgive you for what you did?

In short, recovering a romance damaged by infidelity is a mult-step process. Each step is important, and skipping over any of these steps will always leave holes and gaps in the foundation of any new relationship you try to build together.

You can't just shove cheating under a rock and forget about it. You can't cover your eyes and ears, and pretend it didn't happen.

Unless it's dealt with in a way that satisfies both people involved in the relationship, cheating willalways come back to haunt you. As you try to continue a normal and healthy relationship, the fact that one person cheated will always be lingering in the back of everyone's mind.

Any affair or infidelity has to be acknowledged, faced, and then eventually put away for good in the interest of moving forward. You can't rebuild a relationship shattered by cheating if you or your partner is still constantly bringing up the affair.

Apologies for cheating on your partner

We all make mistakes, and some of them are bigger than others. No one can deny the fact that cheating on a spouse or a committed partner is a big one. So what do you do once the damage is done, and better still, how do you deal with the problem and fix the situation … and, furthermore, can it be fixed?

Why?

The first thing to understand is that cheating often signifies that there is something wrong with, or missing from your marriage/relationship. You will be unable to go forward until you analyse what the problem is.

Communicate

If you were caught cheating on him, he'll be very angry, and will most likely ask many detailed questions. These are going to be hard to answer ... but be honest. If you shut down now and refuse to answer further mistrust can develop.

In order to fix it, you're going to have to reprove your love, which means dealing with his lack of trust for you over a LONG period of time. Be willing to call him if you're going to be late, and if he asks you to be in touch, then BE in touch. Furthermore, don't give him reasons not to trust you. If he asks you to come home early ... come home early.

Understand that, in situations like this, emotions will run deep and strong

By your actions you've torn away a piece of his heart and that scar, like any other, can last for the rest of his life. That doesn't mean you can't salvage the relationship. Explain to him that there is no excuse for your actions and that cheating was an inappropriate solution. Let him know with what aspects of the relationship you're not happy and consider counselling.

Apologise

Make sure you deliver a complete and proper apology to your partner. This CAN be the first step in the long road to forgiveness. Don't place blame or try to justify your actions. Nothing short of admitting fault, apologising, and communicating about the problem, will help the situation.

Cut off communication completely with the third party

Obviously your partner isn't the only one involved in this now that you've cheated. You've taken an outsider into your relationship as well. You need to contact the other person, and explain to them that your actions were wrong, and that you need to repair your relationship with your partner. To do this, you will need to cut off all ties to and communication with the third party.

Patience

Don't set a time limit for how long your partner is "allowed" to remain hurt or angry. You set this process in motion so you must be prepared to deal with the mess your selfishness has left behind. Remember, it takes a moment to break down trust and a lifetime to rebuild it.

He will continue to hurt over your actions so make it up to him. He's going to feel insecure and not trusting of anything you say or do. You need to prove that you are there for him, that you are sorry for what happened, and that you still love him.

Your decision

Whatever you decide, do what you feel is fundamentally right for both you and your partner.

How to fix a bad decision

A bad decision in our planning and execution of communication activity is something all communicators dread. But how do we recognize when we have made a bad decision and what do we do when we realize it?Obviously some decisions are more important than others. Minor poor decisions can easily be corrected but major poor decisions need more attention because they could derail a project. The viability of key decisions can also affect our credibility with others such as senior management, peers, staff and customers.Unfortunately, a change may require some effort and cost in terms of dollars and political standing, and therefore may be unpalatable to consider.

Evaluate decisions within a given time-frame

It’s important with any project to build in reviews at appropriate times to evaluate the progress being made and to determine whether any important decisions need amending or superseding. Suitable times for review include the end of component stages of the project. However, sometimes you get the chance for continuous monitoring and feedback, and so you could review according to specific timeline, eg every week or month, or when certain types of responses should have been received from target audiences. These types of responses include the amount of media coverage or customer responses to coupons etc. If you aren't sure of the best time to do the reviews, ask your team members or other stakeholders of the project. Often, a third party gives a fresh viewpoint.

Decide key criteria to measure the effectiveness of the decision

Select measurable criteria to judge whether the decision is working as well as you want. By keeping to measurable criteria, you have figures to refer to rather than subjective views and your own ego. For instance, you could set a figure for an acceptable proportion of responses to a mail out, the numbers of acceptances to attend a client event, favorable responses in a stakeholder survey, bookings for an event, etc.

I've had to make some hard decisions in the past five years about whether to proceed or not with professional development events I have organized for my chapter of the local PR institute. Some of the decisions have been tough to make because venues need you to estimate numbers ahead of the event, but many people leave their booking until the last minute. The uncertainty can be nail biting! At which point do you cancel and bear the cost of that, or do you tough it out and run the risk of incurring greater costs when few turn up?

Stay factual

Even though you may feel passionate about the project, confine yourself to making factual statements to others, especially to senior management, about the project’s effectiveness. Senior managers won’t respect you if you have glowingly described a project that needs resuscitation shortly after. Don’t allow your emotions or ego color your view or cause you to delay making a necessary change.

Listen to others’ views

Even though you may strongly support a decision relating to a project, don’t allow yourself to be irrationally tied to that decision. If others are telling you a decision isn't working out, be prepared to listen and be prepared to cut your losses by pulling the plug. Too many people hang on to business decisions for too long because they have an emotional attachment to the project and don’t want to appear weak by reversing the decision (‘flip-flopping’). Or by not wanting to admit a mistake to senior managers. However, senior managers will respect you more if you bite the bullet and are decisive about reversing a decision.

Reverse a decision decisively

Don’t hope that procrastination will make the problem go away – life doesn't work like that (unfortunately!). Reversing a decision is a decision in itself and sends a signal to others that you are able to move quickly to fix a situation – that you aren't too proud to do so. Treat it as a good learning experience – we learn more from our mistakes than our successes. Move on emotionally; don’t feel sorry for yourself. By admitting you have been wrong you will gain more respect from others. Comfort yourself that making a bad decision isn't as bad as sticking with a bad decision.

By setting up a review mechanism for your communication projects at key points of time, you will give yourself a better chance of fixing bad decisions and keeping the projects on track for success.

Decisions fear

“You can't make decisions based on fear and the possibility of what might happen.” 

“Truly successful decision-making relies on a balance between deliberate and instinctive thinking.” 

“Whatever you decide, don't let it be because you don't think you have a choice.” 

“We all make choices, but in the end our choices make us.” 

“Big decisions in my life have always come easy and are made without hesitation. It is easier for me to make a life-changing decision than to decide what to get for dessert.” 

“Please do make your decisions in life and feel confident that they are right.

However, if fate is involved, feel just as confident even if they aren’t.” 

“Every moment is a moment of decision, and every moment turns us inexorably in the direction of the rest of our lives.” 

“All you can do is make your decisions based on what you know now.” 

“The decision is mine, and I choose happiness” 

“Success is not determined by the outcome. The outcome is the result of having already decided that you are successful to begin with.” 

Stop, Caution, Go

Decision makers can be categorized in three groups. These groups correlate with a traffic stoplight.

• Red lights These are individuals who often feel frozen in fear when faced with making a decision. They are resistant to change and have great difficulty making decisions. They tend to have to have the rug pulled out from under them before they will move to safer ground.

• Yellow lights These people are caution oriented individuals who will look both ways before venturing into the traffic. They will weigh the pros and cons of any given situation before deciding.

• Green lights Here are the adventuresome type. They leap without looking, figuring that all will go well (they have the right-of-way after all). These people could use a refresher course in defensive driving as they do get themselves in sticky predicaments at times.

What type of decision maker are you?

Choosing Right or Wrong Decisions

Fears of Making Bad Decisions

Over the years I have counseled many clients about decisions they are faced with. Most often they have been either relationship or job related. Normally the problem I feel they are facing is not in making the decision itself, but more trying to move past the fear of making a wrong choice. I will have them imagine the best and the worst outcomes, scripting the different scenarios for each situation to help weigh out the advantages/disadvantages. I also emphasize that there truly are no wrong choices, only different paths.

During a period of time when I felt very stuck and could not decide between decision A or decision B, a good friend of mine pointed out to me that by doing nothing (remaining stuck) I had made decision C. Decisions aren't always based on either this or that options, look for door number 3, or door number 4. Stay alert for side exits or hidden entry ways. Our choices are seldom black or white, alternative pathways can be found in the gray areas.

We can't know what all the future holds for us. There are no guarantees. As much as I have struggled with making decisions in my life I am very happy that I have had so many choices offered to me. Yes, I've made some poor choices, but along with those choices came challenges and opportunities that I would not have experienced otherwise. For this reason I do not believe there are wrong or right choices. Whatever decisions we make, they will ultimately thrust us into life situations (both positive and negative). As the opportunities being gifted to us unfold in our lifes we will grow our spirits.